I believe in the law of attraction and through my social networks I attract some fantastic personalities. Today when a friend sent me a screen shot of a photo and caption from NBA player Dwyane Wade of his #WCW and fiancé Gabrielle Union my jaw dropped. I questioned if I was overreacting. Were my ideals too strong? Am I being obtuse and unforgiving? I didn't think twice about surveying the gent and ladies on my Instagram feed!
My question is do you find this flattering? When you decipher his caption he is basically saying "I cheated on my first wife with you, and then I cheated on you and had a baby and you stayed.
There were three ways people took this:
1. This is unflattering.
2. It was thoughtful and honest.
3. Thou shall not judge.
I can see everyone's view point on this topic and where they see good in Dwyane's gesture. We all deserve love and adoration. I applaud that part of it, but it still seems a little sideways. Like maybe love has made it too easy for him to make these mistakes. Are we seeing an example of unconditional love being taken for granted? It was a lot to process. Especially with the recent trend of men making "on break" babies. Is the life of a newborn becoming less cared about than your WCW?
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14 January 2014
Femspiration: Tamera Mowry-Housley
There is something phenomenally beautiful about speaking out tearfully against cowards who bully celebs on social networks and big chopping all within a matter of days. Tamera Mowry-Housley, you rock!
To me she is a contemporary inspiration. I use the word contemporary because she is an example of a woman unafraid of progressive issues. She didn't pretend to ignore the racist comments from hateful people like many celebrities nor did she settle with wearing her hair straight and unhealthy to appeal to anyone else's standard. In my eyes, Tamera is a spokesperson for health and progression. She is a reminder to me that the only tradition is LOVE. Anything else is just a life preference.
P.S. Tamera looks super beautiful with her new hair cut!
13 December 2013
How Beyonce Propels Political Pop Heroism
I cried tears today listening to a Beyonce song. I didn't cry in a fanatical way, although many obsess over the beauty and grace that composes the singer. Seamlessness is probably the best word to describe her public image but it was a very special feature other song "Flawless" that took me away.
Beyonce features Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a novelist and feminist from Nigeria. Adichie is charming, well spoken and an absolute representation of a true feminist. The idea of feminism is nothing radical but, her words and message pierce on the Hit Boy produced track of Beyonce's Visual Album. Adichie's message will reach far beyond her lectures at TED. She acknowledges that the word "feminist" is often defined as a group of women who are angry and with out husbands. This is not the true character of a feminist, it's an attack imposed by people afraid of true social equality between the genders. Beyonce's inclusion of Adichie's message is a huge step toward changing the unbalanced social attitudes towards women not just in the hip hop culture but across popular culture.
It gets discouraging when you have feminist ideas and beliefs and no one wants to hear you out. They ask you to "relax" and think you're angry or thinking too much. It's a form of oppression. When it becomes normal and popular to be political, the entire culture will be a safer place, more pensive place. I think everyone deserves the same social opportunities.
The way men and women make excuses for how we openly degrade and limit women in society needs to stop. We shame single women and mothers and praise single men or men with "pretty" wives; Because she is weak for being a matriarch and he is strong for living vainly. Untrue and bias. Also how women are expected to seduce to get ahead in their careers and relationships; to "use what you have" to get ahead is so poor.
Feminism is not an attack against men. I value and appreciate men 100%. I love many men including my dad and women like me push men unconditionally wanting to see men prevail but sadly a lot of men don't want to see women be very successful or more successful than them. The proof is in the overall attitudes in hip hop culture. I'm pushed but it's not the same push or pride behind it. My dad expressed to me my life and opportunities were limited now because I have a child - not in a malicious way but in a factual way because most people, in fact, would place limitations on me from the threshold of any of my ideas. Like many in similar circumstances, there are employers on top of that who judge and screen women for having children. Somehow you are deemed unreliable for being a single mother. Not worth the hire. It's the reason a single mom of color is stereotyped as a welfare queen. It would drive a normal person into depression.
I hope "Flawless" penetrates people's attitudes. I'm observant. I know that I'm sitting in a crooked room and rather than bend over I will sit up straight with strong posture. Hands down, Mrs. Carter has one of the most powerful influences over pop culture today. I'm looking forward to the continuing impact of feminist ideas and more acts like it. Thank you Beyonce and Chimananda Ngozi Adichie for making politics popular. We owe you.
We Should All Be Feminists - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Beyonce features Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a novelist and feminist from Nigeria. Adichie is charming, well spoken and an absolute representation of a true feminist. The idea of feminism is nothing radical but, her words and message pierce on the Hit Boy produced track of Beyonce's Visual Album. Adichie's message will reach far beyond her lectures at TED. She acknowledges that the word "feminist" is often defined as a group of women who are angry and with out husbands. This is not the true character of a feminist, it's an attack imposed by people afraid of true social equality between the genders. Beyonce's inclusion of Adichie's message is a huge step toward changing the unbalanced social attitudes towards women not just in the hip hop culture but across popular culture.
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The Lyrics to "Flawless" featuring African Novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
It gets discouraging when you have feminist ideas and beliefs and no one wants to hear you out. They ask you to "relax" and think you're angry or thinking too much. It's a form of oppression. When it becomes normal and popular to be political, the entire culture will be a safer place, more pensive place. I think everyone deserves the same social opportunities.
The way men and women make excuses for how we openly degrade and limit women in society needs to stop. We shame single women and mothers and praise single men or men with "pretty" wives; Because she is weak for being a matriarch and he is strong for living vainly. Untrue and bias. Also how women are expected to seduce to get ahead in their careers and relationships; to "use what you have" to get ahead is so poor.
"We are all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization. Even the language we use in talking about marriage and relationships illustrates this. The language of marriage is often a language of ownership rather than a language of partnership. We use the word 'respect' to mean something a woman shows a man, but often not something a man shows a woman. "
Feminism is not an attack against men. I value and appreciate men 100%. I love many men including my dad and women like me push men unconditionally wanting to see men prevail but sadly a lot of men don't want to see women be very successful or more successful than them. The proof is in the overall attitudes in hip hop culture. I'm pushed but it's not the same push or pride behind it. My dad expressed to me my life and opportunities were limited now because I have a child - not in a malicious way but in a factual way because most people, in fact, would place limitations on me from the threshold of any of my ideas. Like many in similar circumstances, there are employers on top of that who judge and screen women for having children. Somehow you are deemed unreliable for being a single mother. Not worth the hire. It's the reason a single mom of color is stereotyped as a welfare queen. It would drive a normal person into depression.
I hope "Flawless" penetrates people's attitudes. I'm observant. I know that I'm sitting in a crooked room and rather than bend over I will sit up straight with strong posture. Hands down, Mrs. Carter has one of the most powerful influences over pop culture today. I'm looking forward to the continuing impact of feminist ideas and more acts like it. Thank you Beyonce and Chimananda Ngozi Adichie for making politics popular. We owe you.
We Should All Be Feminists - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
10 November 2013
M.I.A Speaks Candidly About Single Motherhood With Stop Being Famous
M.I.A. is everything except conventional, which is why you will be fascinated and not surprised by her parenting style. The political and fashion-forward recording artist spoke with StopBeingFamous.com about money politics and love. She touches on what a normal morning is like for her and son, Ihkid, and her true expectations for him as he grows into a man. See the interview highlights after the jump.
Photos: Women and Children Cope After Typhoon Haiyan Kills 10,000 in Philippines
It's being reported by countless news sources that typhoon Haiyan has killed over 10,000 people in the Phillipines. The Guardian is providing an excellent timeline of news here to keep up with the play by play of what's happening on the sovereign island.
I pray for the people facing this devatation. Below are photos of women and children survivors. I assume are still realizing the terrible aftermath of Haiyan, one of the strongest recorded storms ever to make landfall.
09 November 2013
Cookie Johnson Discusses Son's Sexuality
The Original Basket Ball Wife, Cookie Johnson expresses her unconditional love for her son EJ and support of his sexuality. I found it awesome that Cookie said she knew and spoke to him about dating years ago very naturally. The Johnson's felt comfortable with him being outed by TMZ earlier this year. What a phenomenal wife and mother. Peep the interview with Huff Post Live below:
In an interview with E!Online, EJ also reveals he and his dad have a common love for fashion and travel.
Dream Hampton Calls For Justice In Killing Of Renisha McBride
Dream Hampton gathers supporters at the Dearborn Heights Police Department demanding justice for Renisha McBride and shared a video of the experience.
Renisha is a 19 year old girl that was shot in the face after being involved in a car accident. Her family strongly believes she was seeking help because her phone was dead and was gunned downed by a local resident due to racism.
Renisha is a 19 year old girl that was shot in the face after being involved in a car accident. Her family strongly believes she was seeking help because her phone was dead and was gunned downed by a local resident due to racism.
Highlights From bell hooks and Melissa Harris-Perry's Talk On BlackFeminsm
Yesterday the two feminist scholars opened up the conversation about race, black womanhood, politics, media, and love at the New School. The hour and forty minute long open discussion hit many beautiful points. Read about my favorite highlights after the jump:
08 November 2013
Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa Post Adorable Baby, Bash
Wiz and Amber both glow about their little rosie-cheek blessing on their Instagram profiles for friends and fans to see recently. He is just too precious with both Mommy and Daddy's best features, too cute. Take a look at the adorable video and photo of baby Bash after the jump:
For The 19 Year Old Black Girl That Didn't Like Her Name
I first read about this story two days ago after clicking on a Huffington post link. Keisha (now Kylie) Austin resides in Kansas, MO with her mom Cristy in what they describe as a predominantly white community. Having a biracial daughter, Cristy wanted to do her daughter a service by naming her Keisha. She felt her little girl would feel more connected to her black side and even went on to say she thought the name represented a "strong, feminine, beautiful black woman."
Savannah James Turns Healthy Lifestyle Into Profit
Residents in the Brickell area of Miami are in for a sweet surprise! Savannah James, wife of Lebron James has opened up cold pressed juice bar with free wifi. The newly wed mother of Lebron's 2 son's
picked up a healthy diet getting prepared for her wedding activities. She turned the healthy choice into a beautiful business with the support of her championship winning hubby. In support, Lebron posted these words on his Instagram account before the opening:
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